So I just notice DH recieved a invite to SIL baby's baptism but he hasnt replied and BIL just send him a text invite to his upcoming wedding and DH has not said anything to me. I just saw it thru text. I mean I figure SIL sends him invite just to be formal like I invite him and he is the one that dont show up.
BUT BIL sending a text invite of his upcoming wedding which we havent seen him for 9 yrs due to his gf. Which he didnt even send a text for you and your wife or nothing. Is this invite just toward DH.
If you going to invite a person to a wedding is formal to also include their significant other as well. Its ettitquet. Like I didn't like my sister's boyfriend and I still put down his name on my wedding invite. It's nuts cause DH and I didn't even invite BIL and SIL to our wedding just PILs.
I don't know if DH would even tell me. I mean even if he did I wouldn't think of showing up to a wedding knowing BIL haven't talked to DH and I for 9 yrs plus being in odds with PILs and SIL. No thank you. I rather be laying on the beach.
Now it said Aug that month we usually go on vacation but haven't decided what week. I also asked my bff to stay with DC so DH and I could celerbate our wedding anni which is in Aug as well.
DH recieving invites
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A bit of an interesting mystery. I wouldn't take it too personally, at least without more info.
Maybe BIL sending a text invite so he can say he "tried" or to test the waters? Does he have your address to send a real invite should you get a real invite? If BIL has been so out of touch, maybe he doesn't even know what his brother's situation is?
The Baptism could be awkward even if you did move forward because there would be family involved that you probably couldn't avoid because of the intimate atmosphere. and are you and DH religious? Yet more awkward!
Just some thoughts. Please update if you dicuss with DH!
Maybe BIL sending a text invite so he can say he "tried" or to test the waters? Does he have your address to send a real invite should you get a real invite? If BIL has been so out of touch, maybe he doesn't even know what his brother's situation is?
The Baptism could be awkward even if you did move forward because there would be family involved that you probably couldn't avoid because of the intimate atmosphere. and are you and DH religious? Yet more awkward!
Just some thoughts. Please update if you dicuss with DH!
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Im just assuming BIL send the text invite to his wedding just for courtesy that DH is his brother. IDK if he knows our address. He does know where we live. I haven't spoke to DH to let him know I kow. I saw his text. He haven't told me anything Im assuming he isn't bringing it up cause his intention is not to attend.
As per the baptism. We are not religous. Im guess same thing. SIL invites him just to invite as saying she invites him and he is the one that don't show up. That's all on him. It sure will be awkward showing up to both since I haven't seen them for so long. I am not the type to go to a place if I wasn't invited even if they send it to him.
As per the baptism. We are not religous. Im guess same thing. SIL invites him just to invite as saying she invites him and he is the one that don't show up. That's all on him. It sure will be awkward showing up to both since I haven't seen them for so long. I am not the type to go to a place if I wasn't invited even if they send it to him.
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I don't blame you for not going if you aren't on the invitation. They sound like pretty horrible people. I mean, I dislike my in-laws but I wouldn't invite my FIL to something without including my MIL.
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I would never do that. Invite 1 person but not their SO. If it was a all girls thing then yes. Like the only time is acceptable is his work if they do something and it's only employees but to a wedding? Inviting him and nothing is said like you and your wife invited. Just shoot a picture of the wedding invite and that's it. IDK if BIL will call him since the rsvp is actually due today.
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Not including you sounds like just another way to let you know how they feel about you...as if you could forget. 
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I'm sure it sounds like it. I have a feeling it was just meant for DH and not me. Which it's whatever. The proper ettiquete you invite the person and their SO regardless if you like the person or not. He isn't single.
I saw he called DH like 4 times and send a msg are you good. They talked for 4 mins and that's it. IDK if DH told him no or what. He still hasn't said anything to me. If he wanted to go or see my reaction he would of came up to me and say guess whose getting married but he hasn't. Maybe he knows I would be oppose to not going. Since SIL invited him to MIL 60th bday and he asked me if I was comftable and I said no and he didn't went. He like to avoid so he lets you call and call and with no respond I guess he hopes you get the msg.
IDK how BIL thought DH would go to his wedding without me.
ETA: Since I have CO in laws 13 yrs ago. DH only went to 2 funerals. His grandma and aunt. He haven't went to not 1 family function. No baby shower no baptism no bday no thing. So I guess they just invite him just to be proper and say they invite but he is the one that decide to not go.
I saw he called DH like 4 times and send a msg are you good. They talked for 4 mins and that's it. IDK if DH told him no or what. He still hasn't said anything to me. If he wanted to go or see my reaction he would of came up to me and say guess whose getting married but he hasn't. Maybe he knows I would be oppose to not going. Since SIL invited him to MIL 60th bday and he asked me if I was comftable and I said no and he didn't went. He like to avoid so he lets you call and call and with no respond I guess he hopes you get the msg.
IDK how BIL thought DH would go to his wedding without me.
ETA: Since I have CO in laws 13 yrs ago. DH only went to 2 funerals. His grandma and aunt. He haven't went to not 1 family function. No baby shower no baptism no bday no thing. So I guess they just invite him just to be proper and say they invite but he is the one that decide to not go.