I Hate My Inlaws!

Srsly?

Posted on Mon, Oct. 09, 2017 at 12:49 am

I am so grateful I have this forum, it's the only place where I can be understood without being judged.
My ILs are extremely dysfunctional. It's their upbringing. Poverty and alcoholism do not provide individuals with positive and effective coping mechanisms. You can only make do with what you have, and I recognize that, but what grinds my gears is that my husband doesn't see their dysfunction and will always defend his parents' behavior until he is blue in the face. Bless his heart for being so loyal to his parents. But at the same time shame on him for letting his parents walk all over me.
They've been the victims all along. Their behavior is justified. I'm rude and inconsiderate because I ask that they call before coming over (because I would hate for them to drive 30 minutes one way to find out we are not home, or that we are heading out the door). I've pushed them away with my demands. I've driven this wedge between him and his family. Oh the list goes on. Calculate every single injustice that I have ever "done" to them, hold it over my head, and make me feel guilty about it! Meanwhile, I'm barely recognized unless someone needs medical advice. Thanks for remembering my birthday. Yeah, I'm a complete c-bag when it comes to my birthday, but at least a phone call to make sure I didn't off myself would have been appreciated. Oh wait, you're probably waiting for the call that I'm dead.
And for the rest of the bloody fools in your gang of hillbillies, thanks so much for showing me you really care. You want to know why your kids never receive presents from me? I told you I was a c-bag, all I wanted was a thank you, or even an acknowledgement that anything I send you has been received. I know you all are over the age of 18, and somewhat know the value of a dollar, so when I spend my hard-earned money on a gift, a simple "Wow, thanks" isn't that hard. Nope, it's like it is expected that we shower you with gifts. Not anymore, sweetheart, get your shit together, and start making your children a priority.

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