I Hate My Inlaws!

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In-laws, and the quarrels they start, have been the subject of stories for many years. This is your opportunity to sound off about your own in-laws! Tell the world the story, or stories, of your in-laws. We're looking for the funny ones, the sad ones, the crazy ones, and every story in-between.

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Oh really?

Posted on Sat, Oct. 18, 2014 at 08:55 am

You ridiculed me for YEARS for having a autoimmune disease. Even though I work hard and do the absolute best i can possibly do while my immune system attacks my organs.
Then directly after another insult..you throw your hand on your forehead and collapse on our couch while whining about A HEADACHE?! Excuse me? You really don't understand why I have no pity for your headache? Really?
I'm done. Fed up. You people have had your last laugh at my expense and your son is exactly like you. Final straw has been drawn.

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My Nephew Deserves Better

Posted on Fri, Oct. 17, 2014 at 10:19 am

Sometimes I wonder if the only reason my SIL had children is because she thinks that's what women are supposed to do. I didn't start dating my husband until after her first child was born, so I don't know how she behaved while she was pregnant then, but I witnessed her pregnancy with baby number 2 and she did not seem excited about it at all. She complained about having the baby the entire time she was pregnant. When she found out it was going to be a boy, she complained and said she didn't know what she was going to do with a boy. Honestly, I think if my nephew had been a girl she would have complained, "What am I going to do with TWO girls?!" When my nephew was born, she didn't seem very happy about it. When he cries, it seems like she holds him out of obligation more than anything else. She complains about her children more than she praises them. At my bridal shower my friends and I joked that I was going to have a lot of kids, and my SIL replied, "You'll rethink that after having your first kid because being a mother is horrible." She said that while she was holding her second child. I'm trying to have compassion for her and not judge her, but at the same time if you think being a mother is so horrible then why did you have a second child?

I feel so sorry for my nephew (who is 18 months old). He is such a sweet, happy baby. He deserves a mother who actually wants him.

They are not going to have a good relationship. She's already an overbearing parent with my niece, and since he's the child she didn't want who knows how she'll treat him. He'll grow up to resent her. And she'll play the role of the victim, wondering why her son has cut her out of his life. Gee, SIL, maybe it's because you never wanted him and treated him like shit his whole life!

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A son is a son until he takes a wife..

Posted on Fri, Oct. 17, 2014 at 07:48 am

You know, that wouldn't have to be the case if you didn't treat your son and DIL like crap.

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Learning to Forgive Myself

Posted on Thu, Oct. 16, 2014 at 06:48 pm

I've mulled it over in my head so many times ... what could I have done differently? Maybe I was too stupid for being so nice in the beginning and throwing my 'pearls to pigs' as they say. Maybe that's why you thought it was okay to target me because you thought I would just endure it and not stand up for myself.

Or maybe I was dumb for being so naïve and just assuming the word 'family' meant inclusivity, respect, consideration, equality and all around good will for those in the family.

At other times I've berated myself for not having the wisdom to be more emotionally disciplined when confronted with your ongoing abuse and bullshit. I was so unprepared to deal with this type of hatred within, I didn't know I had it in me, and it is something I struggle to overcome. I've been ashamed at times when I think back to the past, how I didn't know how to handle the hatred without sinking to your level on the odd occasion, which only escalated your cruelty and justification for it.

I've even scolded myself for not cutting you off sooner and ignoring my gut instincts, falsely believing you lot would change and admit to the error of your ways so long as I hung in there as 'fake' family for the sake of my DH and kids.

But the cold, hard truth is, even if I had done things differently it wouldn't have changed a damn thing. I had fallen into a den of snakes and was trapped long before I even knew what was happening.

So I'm learning to forgive myself. No, I'm not perfect, but I did the best I could under the toxic circumstances. I tried to look out for the best interests of the people I love, my DH and kids, and perhaps they had to see the torment you put me through before they were ready to let go of you as well-- it all stemmed from your disrespect and bad will toward my DH anyway. Sad how you never loved him enough in order to show some type of respect to the people he loves, at the very least so you could maintain your relationship with him.

Sometimes I think about going back into the past, knowing what I know now, and handling things 'perfectly' (or at least a lot more wisely) and I've come to the somber conclusion that we would still be at this place today -- estranged, because I'm not the type of person who will put up with abuse, and that is who you are by very definition, abusers. And it doesn't seem as though you have ever been held accountable for this from your group of enablers and allies.

You didn't use your fists to abuse. I have no physical wounds. But you used your words and snide remarks to abuse. You abused by forming unfair alliances. You abused by exclusion. You abused by doing what you could to destroy my reputation. You abused by your silent treatments. You abused by having no empathy for my rights and needs as a fellow human being, not to mention as a fellow family member. You abused by vilifying me and using me as scapegoat for your toxic dysfunction.

And you did it all with a smile.

The emotional wounds you left run deep and I've been left to try to heal those wounds the best way I can, though the scars will always remain. Setting firm boundaries against you and toxic people like you is one of the ways I've taken back some of my power.

So 'dear' EFIL, E-stepMIL, EBILS, ESIL (and separated EBIL's wife) this is to let you know that I'm working on forgiving myself. You are not worth any type of self-loathing because you are the source of the problem no matter how you look at it. Maybe one day I'll reach a point where I can forgive you, and truly pity you instead of hate you. But I need to work on being compassionate to myself first.

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Arrogant, badly behaved MIL

Posted on Thu, Oct. 16, 2014 at 02:09 pm

She is soo arrogant, badly behaved & does not have any manners or any decency, she does not even have any manners of how to treat the other person with respect. She has been like this all her life. She expects me to ask about her, bow down to her, worship her, call her everyday even though I dont live in the same country as her. She has never ever cared to call me even when my son was born, never even has the manners to even ask me how I am doing, does not have the basic skills of a human being but expects me to bow down to her. She is used to dominating, others in the family who are terrified of her, FIL, useless & uneducated both BIL & his wife because she worked all her life, they want her money. I have a bigger career than you & I make 10 times more money than you have ever made in your lifetime. So why should I bow down to you, when you treat me like a scrap, hated me from day one as your son married me against your will. I will never bow down to you, you will never get want you want from me. You have never done anything for me, why should I do anything for you. You will get the same treatment from me that you give me. If you want respect learn to give it first, learn the basic skills of a human being first.

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My in-laws are lazy moochers!

Posted on Thu, Oct. 16, 2014 at 11:13 am

We cut off NIL. Not sending her money anymore. She is so rude for asking. She never invited us to her wedding in the first place. What a loser! ESIL likes to live out of other peoples pockets too. EBIL is just the same. He's always been a deadbeat mooching off of his parents. What is it with this family that they can't be independant financially and stand on their own two feet. They throw pity parties and expect us to get sucked into their drama. No, we don't feel sorry for you. You've made your own bed so lie in it. Instead of trying to financially exploit relatives and mooch off of relatives you should try to reciprocate and be a bit generous yourself. Not a chance. It is only one sided with people like you. What you can get out of people. Well, our bank is closed!

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Just noooo!

Posted on Thu, Oct. 16, 2014 at 09:08 am

Wouldn't that be nice? I wish I could always say no to your fat ass! But I will say no to the following now:
1. No super Christian you aren't better than me no matter how often you go to church or teach a bible class!
2. You are the grandma so no you're not automatically entitled to the kids' schedules and we still choose what we want you invited to our kids and our rules !
3. No you can't give less than a day's notice before coming over I wouldn't let another soul do that toe so why
Should I let you? Family doesn't get to be treated any differently! Sorry!
4. No you can't use guilt against us and esp not against your own grandkids! ! How horrible is that? You can try but it won't be allowed!
5. No you don't always get your way! Compromise !
6. No you are not part of our family you and your husband are one family and we're our own family you are on the outside of our circle !
7. No you can't intrude into our business or our private family matters!
8. No you can't get away with gossip because it will burn you in the end
9. No attempts to make me look bad to my husband or other family actually make me look bad but only make you look bad!
10.no you can't make
Me get into trouble with my husband! He's my equal!

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My in-laws are users and losers

Posted on Thu, Oct. 16, 2014 at 06:15 am

It took my husband a few bad experiences with his relatives but he now realizes that they are users and losers. His own sister ripped him off. His father was using me for family dinners. His brother is also a taker and user. We are so done with these people. They are just out for themselves with no regard for the well-being of other people. I've never met people so rude and underhanded as these people. They are money grubbing people who love to live out of the pockets of other people. Example, NIL told me to stop sending her children clothes and toys. She specifically requested that I send cash only for their accounts. That was the final straw. I can't send a kid a toy that he might like. I don't live under this type of dictatorship. So guess what, I'm not sending anything at all! How do you like that NIL. These people are so controlling and sick. I feel sorry for these kids, they won't have much fun in their lives. What a sad existence. I'm supposed to be godmother to the son but now I'm put off with their behaviour so I don't bother with them anymore. DH refused to be godfather because we weren't even invited to NIL's wedding and she didn't ask him personally to be a godfather. She went through me by e-mail to ask my husband instead of calling him and asking him personally. How stupid is that. These people are nuts! So glad we cut them out because I can't stand the drama, stupidity and controlling behaviour.

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I hate my in laws!

Posted on Wed, Oct. 15, 2014 at 06:51 pm

Me & my boyfriend have been together for three years now & we have a six month old son together. Since day one of us dating my boyfriends ex has been a problem in our relationship. I've gotten multiple of phone calls from his ex complaining that my boyfriend has been trying to talk to him if he is still seeing her & when I ask my boyfriend about it he denies all of it butting the same way with him. He complains that she is messing with him and I ask her about it and she denies it. So I don't know who to believe, everybody has different stories. My boyfriend & his ex were together four years and broke up a couple months before we started dating but he was still talking to her for about a year and a half behind my back lien about it when I asked if he was still talking to her. I found he had been talking to her because we broke up for a month & they both told me they were talking but it was supposively as friends. They complained so much about each other when we were dating and always talked about how much they hated each other. But I didn't understand why my boyfriend ran back to her the next day after breaking up if they hated each other so much. While we were broken up he carried his ex to his mamas house and acted like they were best friends. If they hated each other so much while we were dating then how can you automatically become best friends with each other the next day after we split up? But anyways my boyfriends mother has never had anything to do with me hardly as goes for his sister. They have always been stuck on his ex. My mother in law and sister in law are the kind of people that when I'm around they act like they love me but when I'm not around they talk bad about me. Me & my boyfriend have just had a baby boy this year in April and his family hardly has anything to do with me or our baby. His ex had a baby a month after I had my child and his mother and sister stay on her Facebook page liking all her pictures and pictures of her baby but they have not once liked anything on my page about my baby or me. They stay stuck up his exs butt. So I ask for everyone's opinion. His ex has been a problem our whole relationship and his mother and sister make it no better. I feel like they prefer him to be with his ex and her baby than with me and their actual grand baby/ nephew. My boyfriend lies all the time about little stuff that ain't even worth lien about so I have a hard time trusting him. I'm tired of having to deal with his ex. I can't go the rest of my life wondering if they still have something going on with one another & hiding it from me. I just feel like they still have something going on because his mother and sister always talk to her and never me & they are so happy to see her but when they see me they act like in not there. I need some advice is my boyfriend still secretly seeing his ex? Does his mother and sister keep on with his ex because he still has something going on with her? I have a gut feeling he still is seeing her but I think he is lien to me about it. He lies about everything it seems like and as much heartache as I've had with his ex and after three years it's still going on I don't know if I should leave him or stay with him. I can only handle so much lien and so much of his ex. I'm trying to raise a child we have together and make a family for us but it's hard to do with all these doubts about him and his ex and the way his mother and sister acts. Advice please, I'm tired of stressing over all of this!

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Guess What SIL!!!

Posted on Wed, Oct. 15, 2014 at 07:40 am

Re: your extreme hatred of me....guess who keeps DH in touch with his family and reminds him to return phone calls, keep in touch and check for messages....lil ol' me! Guess who isn't doing it any more? Lil ol' me!! :) :) :)

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